Dear Abby:

Recently, our daughter, 21, came to us and told us that she was "in love" with another girl with whom she had been living for the past year.

She said her roommate felt herself to be a "man imprisoned in a woman's body" and was contemplating a "Christine Jorgensen" operation in reverse.

After the initial shock lessened, my husband and I persuaded our daughter to remove herself from what we considered to be a lesbian environment, return home and see a psychiatrist.

Amid much weeping, she came home for four days, and after two visits to a psychiatrist, she announced that she was through with the psychiatrist. (Her roommate refused to go to a psychiatrist, saying she knew what she was and was happy with what she was. Our daughter agreed with her.) Our daughter has re-

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sumed living with her friend, and she now expects her family, for whom she professes great love, to accept this lesbian relationship.

She's invited us to her apartment and wants us to invite them both for dinner. I cannot do this.

We still love our daughter, with our now broken hearts, but the situation repels us. Any advice you can give us will be greatly appreciated. Baffled and Broken-Hearted Mother

Dear Mother:

If your daughter is happy with “what she is," then you who profess to love her must accept her as she is or not at all.

Freud wrote in his famous "Letter to an American Mother" (April 9, 1935): "Homosexuality is assuredly no advantage, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, no vice, no degradation, it cannot be classified as an a variation of sexual functions produced by a certain arrest of sexual development "